Over the past few days this complex thing called "love" keeps appearing in conversations with unrelated, and usually random, people. I think everyone has a grasp of friendship love, sibling love, and such, but when it comes down to romantic love.. well.. where to begin..
I guess it's more complicated because everyone in my generation has their own ideal of how they will fall in love, or possibly when or with whom, but you kind of think you know what it will be like. All of our ideals, however, are dramatically influenced by the media and movies. I have admitted it before and I'll admit it again, I want the fairy-tale movie love story, but what I question is if it exists and if so, on what level.
It's just so strange.. I imagine love as this abstract presence that everyone on Earth is trying to grasp, but it floats just out of reach, except for the select few have conquered it and maintained a fast grasp. Is it true that some think they have grasped it, or think they've fallen in love, but they haven't really? But if they have, can you fall in love multiple times? And if you can, does that discount the idea of a soul mate?
One of my friends said that she was once told that she shouldn't look for someone she can live with, but someone she can't live without. Yet, as she has grown older she has flipped that view and truly believes she should find someone she can live with. But I would say find someone you don't want to live without, but also someone you can live with.. Well that just gets complicated again.
Overall, the general consensus has been that love typically appears when you least expect it.
Love itself scares me. Too many people abuse the use of word they say "I love you" as simply as they say "hello" and then the question arises as to whether they love you as you should love everyone, or do they mean "I am in love with you." Now we approach the two phrases that mean something completely different. I myself have only told two people in the past that I loved them, in the sense of being in love. At the time of each I truly believed it; now, looking back, I know for certain I wasn't in love with the first, and the second.. time still needs to answer that one.
While the idea and this concept of love may forever confuse me, and confront me as more of my friends are married off, I think I will just continue to pray that one day it will all be clear and make sense, without explanation. I just see it as something I will "just know."
Well, these are my rambling thoughts and here is a proverb that is my reasoning for being ever so cautious with serious relationships and silly boys..
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."
Prov. 4:23
Love God, Love people.
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